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A modern alternative to IRC or Discord. Good for team chats and groups.
3 private alternatives, vetted against our public criteria.
Discord runs your community on its own servers, profiles the metadata around every message, and can lock or read your space on its terms. The problem is structural, not a setting: hosting your community is the whole basis of a free service whose product is your activity. The platforms below put the same channels and voice chat on infrastructure you or the community actually controls.
A modern alternative to IRC or Discord. Good for team chats and groups.
Professional approach for real-time conversations with your colleagues, other companies or customers.
Open-source team chat built around topic-based threading, fully self-hostable with managed hosting also available.
Why settings won’t fix Discord. Discord is free because the platform is the product and your activity is the asset, and a settings page cannot change that arrangement. Server-side, it holds the entire social graph of who talks to whom and how often, down to the channels each member sits in, regardless of which privacy options you flip. A toggle can hide a message from another user; it cannot hide the room from the company that owns it. There is no configuration for “stop being the host,” because hosting your community is the basis of the service. The only way to stop feeding it is to stop routing the community through it, which means owning the server yourself or paying a host that sells software instead of data.
What actually matters in a community platform. Self-hosting is the strongest version of this, since the data lives on a server you answer to and nobody else can quietly read or monetise it. If you would rather not run a box, look for a managed plan from a company whose business is selling the software, ideally with end-to-end encryption for private rooms. Open-source code matters more here than almost anywhere, because a community accumulates years of conversation and you want the standing option to audit it or move it elsewhere later. Rocket.Chat and Zulip take different routes to the same idea, so weigh whether your group lives in fast-moving channels or in organised threaded discussion. The point is the same either way: the room belongs to the people in it, not a vendor selling around them.
How to switch. Stand up one of these for your core group, re-create your channels and roles, and run it alongside Discord while members migrate. Communities move on social proof, so bring the most active people across first and let the rest follow the activity rather than trying to move everyone at once. The honest trade is that someone becomes the admin, which means moderation and backups and keeping the lights on. That is real work, but it is also exactly what ownership means, and a managed plan splits the difference by handing the infrastructure to a vendor you chose on merit. For the private side conversations every community eventually needs, pair the new space with a dedicated messenger from our WhatsApp alternatives page so the off-channel chat is not riding on another company’s servers either.